There is a simple secret which has permeated through the ages. It has been discussed in various books of religion, in self-help books, in the 'secret' and many others. It is not the law of attraction.
The source of any form of anxiety is ALWAYS the same. It is your thoughts. Your thoughts have inordinate power and more importantly, the quality and content of your thoughts determines your emotions.
Learning to run your own brain instead of being run on auto-pilot is the key to self mastery and control over anxiety, fear, anger or any other emotion you wish to develop. Many people with anxiety also suffer from a combination of perfectionism and a lack of personal boundaries. When experiencing anxiety it is often because we are stressing over things beyond our control and trying to control them.
On some level those who have anxiety are trying to induce a panic in order to control or change some undesired outcome in the world around them. Trying to perfectly control your life and control the world around you is a guaranteed formula for anger and stress.
The reason why we feel anger and stress over things like this is because we try to control something that is not 100% within our control. It is true that we have partial control over the world around us. However, it is only partial.
So the problem starts when you become emotionally attached to a certain outcome in the world around you and if you fail to achieve that outcome - panic can ensue. This is also a part of a lack of self-confidence and a fear that they cannot handle whatever undesirable outcome they are thinking about.
The key to self-mastery is controlling your thoughts. Our thoughts are always the cause of our emotions and when we learn to change our thoughts we can stop feeling anxiety instantaneously. Have you ever been angry and then something hilarious happened - only to burst out laughing and no longer feel angry?
The reason why your emotion changed was because your thoughts changed. So to begin - think about this:
What are you grateful for?
Force yourself to write out at least 3 things you are grateful for. Next,
What are you happy about?
Anyone, anyone can find at least three things they are happy about. And...
What do you like about yourself?
It is very hard for us to feel both confident and anxious about ourselves at the same time. If you will focus your mind on what you are confident about, then you will notice dramatic changes in your personality and emotions.
This is part one of a multi-part series on changing your thoughts in order to alter the results you experience in your life
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